Conversations in Aging – It’s Not If But When You Will Have Sex
Conversations in Aging
You Will Have Sex
It’s not if, but when. You will have sex. These were the words I shared with my 76-year-old client. A father and grandfather he is in a complicated place. Moving forward in the next phase of his life. Yes, you will have sex and you need to wear a condom. Were my honest words of encouragement.
Sex Doesn’t End at Sixty
By now I’m comfortable discussing sex honestly and open with older adults. It’s part of my mission to reframe aging. While sex might be different after age 60 intimacy and love are ageless. However, few discuss the topic of sexual health.
Talking About Sex With Your Parents
If you’re uncomfortable discussing the topic print out my guide Come Back Cupid Honest Talk. I was faced with my father’s sexuality. When his very nice, perfectly coiffed girlfriend said, your father is a passionate man. While I feigned composure I had two thoughts. In a word, WOW. On the other hand, there are things children don’t need to know. Nevertheless, understanding your parent’s sexuality is an opportunity for building a closer relationship.
Sexual Health and Safety
When discussing the topics I focus on awareness and health. First, awareness older adults often have the opportunity for sexual relationships. However, the quality of the liaison may be disappointing. Often older women feel compelled into a sexual relationship before real intimacy. While men with the help of Viagra, Levitra or Cialis embrace multiple encounters. Here is where you need to educate older adults. Whether it is no love, no glove. Or practice safe sex you must talk to your parents. Recent statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) have shown that the number of new HIV infections is actually growing faster in individuals over age 50.
Currently, I am the Director of Program Innovation at Advocates For Aging. My claim to fame? First gerontologist to speak at South by Southwest. Another accomplishment? Freewheeling After Sixty the first book to make it easier for older adults to give up driving. Lastly, my most recent project online dating for age 65+ with Come Back Cupid. After all, love is ageless.